peel back your eyelids and remind yourself that your freckles and flaws were meant to be treasured but never buried below ground

undo the buttons on your blouse and look down at the masterpiece you've tried to paint over knowing the watercolor of words the world has colored you with will wash right off

tilt your head back until your hair hangs low and scream to the sky every word of advice and every time someone has told you it gets better because you know those words never help anything at all

break every tea cup shatter every saucer make your cabinet into a mirror of your heart it will not heal you but it will help the pain settle like boiling water set to simmer

untangle your branches but if your roots brush each other's it's okay to let the past in a little as long as it's not taking all your water because it only rains so often and the salt of your tears dries quickly

press your hand to your breast and remember the world is only as wide as you can imagine and only limited by how high you can count the stars

shed your skin-

peel off everywhere he touched-

rid yourself of his stains

until you're finally clean

slash open your dams

and cry a river

but do not drown in your sadness

let your tears

wash over your lovedrunk cheeks

until your heart grows sober

do not listen to the shadows

that say you are worthless

do not take their whispers

as words of wisdom

learn to love yourself

like narcissus

loved his reflection

remember-

he is not ouranos-

he did not put the stars in the sky

there were cosmos in your bones

long before you met him

Step 1: Cry until you can't cry anymore.

Step 2: Do all the things he didn't like; but you do

Step 3: makeover

Step 4: decide you are way better without him because well he sucks anyway

Step 5: move on to someone new

It definitely isn't easy to get over a breakup, but I promise you that you will. Here's a list of what I've done in the past and it helped me get through it.

*Write about it. Nothing soothes the soul better.

*Hang out with friends. They will definitely help you keep your mind off it...or they'll let you vent!

*Listen to music. Obviously avoid music that reminds you of this person.

*Do whatever makes you happy!

*Watch movies! Personally when I'm feeling down I like watching funny movies.

Breakups might feel like the end of the world, but they aren't. Just remember every single relationship you encounter was meant for a reason. Not every reason makes sense at the time but, someday you'll look back and it will.

You may be hurting right now. I promise you though, one day you will realize wow I haven't thought about this person in a while! And then you'll know your 100% over it.

Hold

On

Pain

Ends

How to deal with a breakup?

When dealing with a breakup, you are no longer dealing with the being you broke up with, though it can seem so.

Instead, you are dealing with all those swirling emotions inside you -- perhaps sadness, rage, confusion, more sadness. This swirl of emotions is a new being, who it is true often resembles the ugliest to most beautiful versions of that other being you broke up with. But that other being is gone. This new being is real and here now.

So sit down, and kindly ask those swirling emotions, that new being often making you so uncomfortable, though you quietly do sometimes take comfort in the discomfort, to sit down across from you. See it however you choose. Perhaps as a black blob. Perhaps as a red light. But see it. And smell it, too. Perhaps as a rose. Perhaps gasoline. Give it some fleeting form, as we all have fleeting form, to help you focus. And have a conversation.

Ask it, perhaps, what it's doing here, with you.

Ask it, perhaps, what purpose it serves.

Ask it, perhaps, what it's trying to tell you.

And are you a friend or foe?

And will I grow or wilt because of your presence?

And really, really try to listen.

That swirl of emotions inside you is not you. It is indeed its own being. Like every other relationship in your life -- every single one -- it won't last forever. It serves a purpose. It may be hard to see this with this relationship, as with many other relationships, but it does. Have a quiet and honest discussion, and listen very closely to the answers this being gives, and you may understand some of them now. You will understand more of them later. And soon -- perhaps not soon enough, you will often feel, but soon -- it too will be gone.

What to do with a break up

Don't identify with it

Don't make it who you are

Feel it

Oh my

Write about it

Love that you can feel about it

Then leave it in the past

Leave it with the scars you made as a child