this man in my life, he doesn't want to be helped. He likes to build problems, and watch them fall down. He is a self saboteur, a manipulator, a child.
And I don't mean derogatively a child-
The emotional maturity froze solid in his freshman year when he was bullied to near extinction, and heard only the word's of those girls who broke him.
Years, and years, and so much love and advice and devotion later-
That is him. He is everything he fears he is, because he believes it. And So It Is.