It's no big deal. That's what they all say. It's no big deal. I wish I could show them what it's really like. It's no big deal, huh? Living with the ghosts and consequences of choices you had no part in? To want to destroy yourself at every turn after being taught that you're a horrible person. How could a 4, 5, or 6 year old be so unlovable and such a mistake? How can you teach a child that she's worthless from day one? Then how does the rest of the world turn around and say it's no big deal.... How? How can these scars be no big deal?