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I Need Some Advice
I'm starting to think that something might be wrong with me. Over the past few weeks, I've been dealing with thoughts about depression, nihilism, and, within the last couple of days, suicide. I am so scared of the future, I feel so helpless, I don't see any point in carrying on when the world is just so horrible and dark and devoid of hope. I want to tell people in my life, but I don't want people worrying about or pitying me, and I don't want to be a burden. So I'm turning to online forums for at least some form of advice. What should I do? How should I handle this? And if you think I should tell my parents, how should I go about it? Thank you for your time.

Advice?

Dear acescribbler,

To quote coldplay - ’Nobody said it was easy,

No one ever said it would be this hard’

this line resonates with me a lot lately,

Sometimes things get very hard and it’s difficult to see past it, it is difficult to think that this phase will pass but it does. There are bad times and there will be good times. Maybe even at the same time.

I am no professional and I don’t even know if my advice will make sense to you, but I will tell you what I do to feel better.

Talk to a friend, or a relative it helps when you feel like atleast there is one person in the world who understands you or that you aren’t alone.

There always is that one person who will listen to you and tell you it’s going to be okay and you can get through this. If there isn’t then you should tell someone to tell you that it’s going to be okay. (it is okay to ask for what you need.)

Good books or a tv show helps take your mind of things, just until you’re ready to face the world again.

A hot bowl of noodles or soup does wonders. A walk in the sun.

There will always be something wrong in the world, something that we can’t control, something we can’t see past. Just reading the news every morning terrifies me. I have no idea how the future will turn out but I have decided to distract myself at times when it gets too hard, there is nothing wrong in being a little ignorant.

That said - there is this book called ‘How to come alive again’ by Beth Mccoll that gives you a good insight on how you can go about seeking professional help and what you should expect.

Now as for your parents, they love you no matter what and yes sometimes they get hysterical (atleast mine do). They might not even understand what you are feeling or it might even make you anxious on how you should go about talking to them. You should drink water, sit them or one of them down and just tell them to listen to you and say something when you’re done. It might make them worry about you but it will help you and them understand each other better. They have been around more than us, so they might actually have helpful things to say.

The world needs someone like you, don’t give up on us yet.

Warmly,

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