Feminists Save Women
As a woman, I am ever so grateful
Feminists before me, their hearts so full
Perplexed as to why women weren't treated as humans
Fought for us, to stand beside the man
I fight for and with feminists and approve of their message
Because I simply depend on it
And if I ever have a daughter, I'd want her to grow up being a feminist too.
Happy for you
Through communicating with some of you, and in reading your posts, I’m guessing most of you on prose are younger than me. It is thought provoking reading your synopses on a variety of topics, feminism included. It seems for some of you, feminism sparks a negative connotation and or it is inconsequential. I guess that’s a good sign. It signals that we are no longer supressed in ways we once were and that we experince equal treatment under the law. That was not always the case.
My mother was born in a time when the the 19th amendment was fresh. Had it not been for the suffragettes who knows if and when women would have been walking into a voting booth. She was educated, but very little employment opportunity was open to her. She worked as a teacher but was pretty much expected to keep her mouth shut and take care of the home and her children.
As the subsequent generation to my mother, when I was in high school not much had changed. All of my female classmates and I were required to take home economics; none of us were offered a course in shop. Boys only. The only sports available to me and my fellow female classmates were gymnastics, cheer and twirling. Is twirling even still a thing? I did all three and never even considered what it would be like to play basketball, baseball, or football. Scholarships were very limited for girls. We didn’t even question why that was so.
When Gloria Steinem and Bella Abzug came on the scene, I was mostly silent on the subject of feminism. They both thrilled me and at the same time I was cautiously turned off just a little bit. How was I supposed to disregard what I had been preprogrammed to believe about myself and all women growing up? We were less than, not equal to our male counterparts. After all, which sex is physically larger and stronger? Who had fought our wars? Makes sense, right? But why wasn’t I thinking who gives birth? Who breast feeds and is the primary care taker of future generations? How is that not a strength? Change for women would come slowly, but the negative stereotype of the feminist emerged quickly.
Whether my beliefs were subconscious or not, I was not ready to slap on a button and march with the feminists, but it also comforted me to know they were there, especially since the topic of sexual assault and misogony became a part of the discussion. Twice as a young woman I was sexually assaulted. Once as an employee and once as a patient. Both times I kept silently enraged believing no one would believe me if I reported the male offenders. Hallelujah that I can now write this admission knowing this criminal activity would be met with prosecution.
Things sometimes get ugly when people declare themselves a feminist or as part of black lives matter, the anti defamation league, NAACP, planned parenthood, etc. Many take offense when people are loud and in your face. Understadably. Most likely anyone that is loud and in your face about their cause most probably has other issues going on and they are using their platform to vent their frustration. In acting radically they don’t necessarily represent the cause, but rather their own ego. It’s easy for some of us to feel offended thinking, what’s the big deal, stop your whining, go out in the world and take care of business. Shut up already!
The bottom line is there are legitimate reasons why these groups were formed in the first place. Because it doesn’t personally affect us, doesn’t mean the problem doesn’t exist. If we are secure in who we are and what we believe, why should we be offended by someone else’s passion for a cause? I totally get the juxtaposition posed when a group defines themself for inherent inequity and in doing so magnifies the separation from the mainstream rather than enhancing an inclusion, hence defeating their original goal. Ironic. To be offended by a feminist that is in your face and seems to hate men is one thing. To denounce the cause is another. By definition, feminism should not be considered as anti male. If men are seen as the enemy by a feminist, they might want to consider that men have also been caught up in preconditioning. Fighting for equality shouldn’t be realized by denouncing anyone.
Despite all the strides made since I was a young woman, apparently pay equity is still an issue. I’m thankful to the woman and men that are still fighting out there, knowing my granddaughter has got choices in her future that were slim to none for my mother and me. It’s also a joy to watch her play the sport of her desire and even be eligible for a scholarship!
Choices that are now avaiable to us were not even on my radar when I was a youngin. So I say today be who you are and embrace that choice! Love who you love, go after your dreams, personal and career wise. But let us not forget that there were women and even some men before us that fought for the luxury of these present day available choices. They deserve a touch of gratitude. BonnieBoo is happy for millennial you!
born with Eve?
Or did its roots
the splitting of
the apple seed?
born with Ego?
is there not a Lilith
somewhere in the
dirt to be found?
born with Adam?
these dual elements
from the beginning
then already present
there... within him?
S—he, H—e, —e
What exactly is Feminism... if traced back to such origin?
*One can always multiply and divy up one’s philanthropy... to this cause, and that, and so on... but if standing by underlying principles of Equality one should be shamed to become caught in such particularities: ...are you for Man, Woman; or for Children?!
Rather be it said:
I want justice, in all our realm; Human Justice, for each and every contingent.
Letter to Women...
[Before you read, please note that this is directly taken from Pope St. John Paul II, and it’s a bit long. In 1995 he wrote a letter to women, specifically for a conference, but it has since been widely distributed and read everywhere--upheld as true and good even among non-Catholics. It is, I believe, a beautiful representation of something known among Catholics as “true feminism”--that is, a remembrance and upholding of feminine dignity, which the Church also calls “feminine genius”. It does not exclude men or raise women above them, but rather illustrates the beauty and dignity of womanhood, just as the Church has done with men at other times. It helps teach women how to 1) be grateful for their womanhood, 2) treat themselves and others with dignity, and 3) live as a woman in the world without simply aping men or holding them in low esteem, but rather allowing their feminine genius to complement and cooperate with the genius and dignity of man. If you really like the letter, you can also read Pope St. John Paul II’s Apostolic Letter, Mulieris Dignitatem (“On the Dignity of Women”).]
I greet you all most cordially,
women throughout the world!
1. I am writing this letter to each one of you as a sign of solidarity and gratitude on the eve of the Fourth World Conference on Women, to be held in Beijing this coming September.
Before all else, I wish to express my deep appreciation to the United Nations Organization for having sponsored this very significant event. The Church desires for her part to contribute to upholding the dignity, role and rights of women, not only by the specific work of the Holy See’s official Delegation to the Conference in Beijing, but also by speaking directly to the heart and mind of every woman. Recently, when Mrs Gertrude Mongella, the Secretary General of the Conference, visited me in connection with the Peking meeting, I gave her a written Message which stated some basic points of the Church’s teaching with regard to women’s issues. That message, apart from the specific circumstances of its origin, was concerned with a broader vision of the situation and problems of women in general, in an attempt to promote the cause of women in the Church and in today’s world. For this reason, I arranged to have it forwarded to every Conference of Bishops, so that it could be circulated as widely as possible.
Taking up the themes I addressed in that document, I would now like to speak directly to every woman, to reflect with her on the problems and the prospects of what it means to be a woman in our time. In particular I wish to consider the essential issue of the dignity and rights of women, as seen in the light of the word of God.
This “dialogue” really needs to begin with a word of thanks. As I wrote in my Apostolic Letter Mulieris Dignitatem, the Church “desires to give thanks to the Most Holy Trinity for the ‘mystery of woman’ and for every woman-for all that constitutes the eternal measure of her feminine dignity, for the ‘great works of God’, which throughout human history have been accomplished in and through her” (No. 31).
2. This word of thanks to the Lord for his mysterious plan regarding the vocation and mission of women in the world is at the same time a concrete and direct word of thanks to women, to every woman, for all that they represent in the life of humanity.
Thank you, women who are mothers! You have sheltered human beings within yourselves in a unique experience of joy and travail. This experience makes you become God’s own smile upon the newborn child, the one who guides your child’s first steps, who helps it to grow, and who is the anchor as the child makes its way along the journey of life.
Thank you, women who are wives! You irrevocably join your future to that of your husbands, in a relationship of mutual giving, at the service of love and life.
Thank you, women who are daughters and women who are sisters! Into the heart of the family, and then of all society, you bring the richness of your sensitivity, your intuitiveness, your generosity and fidelity.
Thank you, women who work! You are present and active in every area of life-social, economic, cultural, artistic and political. In this way you make an indispensable contribution to the growth of a culture which unites reason and feeling, to a model of life ever open to the sense of “mystery”, to the establishment of economic and political structures ever more worthy of humanity.
Thank you, consecrated women! Following the example of the greatest of women, the Mother of Jesus Christ, the Incarnate Word, you open yourselves with obedience and fidelity to the gift of God’s love. You help the Church and all mankind to experience a “spousal” relationship to God, one which magnificently expresses the fellowship which God wishes to establish with his creatures.
Thank you, every woman, for the simple fact of being a woman! Through the insight which is so much a part of your womanhood you enrich the world’s understanding and help to make human relations more honest and authentic.
3. I know of course that simply saying thank you is not enough. Unfortunately, we are heirs to a history which has conditioned us to a remarkable extent. In every time and place, this conditioning has been an obstacle to the progress of women. Women’s dignity has often been unacknowledged and their prerogatives misrepresented; they have often been relegated to the margins of society and even reduced to servitude. This has prevented women from truly being themselves and it has resulted in a spiritual impoverishment of humanity. Certainly it is no easy task to assign the blame for this, considering the many kinds of cultural conditioning which down the centuries have shaped ways of thinking and acting. And if objective blame, especially in particular historical contexts, has belonged to not just a few members of the Church, for this I am truly sorry. May this regret be transformed, on the part of the whole Church, into a renewed commitment of fidelity to the Gospel vision. When it comes to setting women free from every kind of exploitation and domination, the Gospel contains an ever relevant message which goes back to the attitude of Jesus Christ himself. Transcending the established norms of his own culture, Jesus treated women with openness, respect, acceptance and tenderness. In this way he honoured the dignity which women have always possessed according to God’s plan and in his love. As we look to Christ at the end of this Second Millennium, it is natural to ask ourselves: how much of his message has been heard and acted upon?
Yes, it is time to examine the past with courage, to assign responsibility where it is due in a review of the long history of humanity. Women have contributed to that history as much as men and, more often than not, they did so in much more difficult conditions. I think particularly of those women who loved culture and art, and devoted their lives to them in spite of the fact that they were frequently at a disadvantage from the start, excluded from equal educational opportunities, underestimated, ignored and not given credit for their intellectual contributions. Sadly, very little of women’s achievements in history can be registered by the science of history. But even though time may have buried the documentary evidence of those achievements, their beneficent influence can be felt as a force which has shaped the lives of successive generations, right up to our own. To this great, immense feminine “tradition” humanity owes a debt which can never be repaid. Yet how many women have been and continue to be valued more for their physical appearance than for their skill, their professionalism, their intellectual abilities, their deep sensitivity; in a word, the very dignity of their being!
4. And what shall we say of the obstacles which in so many parts of the world still keep women from being fully integrated into social, political and economic life? We need only think of how the gift of motherhood is often penalized rather than rewarded, even though humanity owes its very survival to this gift. Certainly, much remains to be done to prevent discrimination against those who have chosen to be wives and mothers. As far as personal rights are concerned, there is an urgent need to achieve real equality in every area: equal pay for equal work, protection for working mothers, fairness in career advancements, equality of spouses with regard to family rights and the recognition of everything that is part of the rights and duties of citizens in a democratic State.
This is a matter of justice but also of necessity. Women will increasingly play a part in the solution of the serious problems of the future: leisure time, the quality of life, migration, social services, euthanasia, drugs, health care, the ecology, etc. In all these areas a greater presence of women in society will prove most valuable, for it will help to manifest the contradictions present when society is organized solely according to the criteria of efficiency and productivity, and it will force systems to be redesigned in a way which favours the pro- cesses of humanization which mark the “civilization of love”.
5. Then too, when we look at one of the most sensitive aspects of the situation of women in the world, how can we not mention the long and degrading history, albeit often an “underground” history, of violence against women in the area of sexuality? At the threshold of the Third Millennium we cannot remain indifferent and resigned before this phenomenon. The time has come to condemn vigorously the types of sexual violence which frequently have women for their object and to pass laws which effectively defend them from such violence. Nor can we fail, in the name of the respect due to the human person, to condemn the widespread hedonistic and commercial culture which encourages the systematic exploitation of sexuality and corrupts even very young girls into letting their bodies be used for profit.
In contrast to these sorts of perversion, what great appreciation must be shown to those women who, with a heroic love for the child they have conceived, proceed with a pregnancy resulting from the injustice of rape. Here we are thinking of atrocities perpetrated not only in situations of war, still so common in the world, but also in societies which are blessed by prosperity and peace and yet are often corrupted by a culture of hedonistic permissiveness which aggravates tendencies to aggressive male behaviour. In these cases the choice to have an abortion always remains a grave sin. But before being something to blame on the woman, it is a crime for which guilt needs to be attributed to men and to the complicity of the general social environment.
6. My word of thanks to women thus becomes a heartfelt appeal that everyone, and in a special way States and international institutions, should make every effort to ensure that women regain full respect for their dignity and role. Here I cannot fail to express my admiration for those women of good will who have devoted their lives to defending the dignity of womanhood by fighting for their basic social, economic and political rights, demonstrating courageous initiative at a time when this was considered extremely inappropriate, the sign of a lack of femininity, a manifestation of exhibitionism, and even a sin!
In this year’s World Day of Peace Message, I noted that when one looks at the great process of women’s liberation, “the journey has been a difficult and complicated one and, at times, not without its share of mistakes. But it has been substantially a positive one, even if it is still unfinished, due to the many obstacles which, in various parts of the world, still prevent women from being acknowledged, respected, and appreciated in their own special dignity” (No. 4).
This journey must go on! But I am convinced that the secret of making speedy progress in achieving full respect for women and their identity involves more than simply the condemnation of discrimination and injustices, necessary though this may be. Such respect must first and foremost be won through an effective and intelligent campaign for the promotion of women, concentrating on all areas of women’s life and beginning with a universal recognition of the dignity of women. Our ability to recognize this dignity, in spite of historical conditioning, comes from the use of reason itself, which is able to understand the law of God written in the heart of every human being. More than anything else, the word of God enables us to grasp clearly the ultimate anthropological basis of the dignity of women, making it evident as a part of God’s plan for humanity.
7. Dear sisters, together let us reflect anew on the magnificent passage in Scripture which describes the creation of the human race and which has so much to say about your dignity and mission in the world.
The Book of Genesis speaks of creation in summary fashion, in language which is poetic and symbolic, yet profoundly true: “God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them” (Gen 1:27). The creative act of God takes place according to a precise plan. First of all, we are told that the human being is created “in the image and likeness of God” (cf. Gen 1:26). This expression immediately makes clear what is distinct about the human being with regard to the rest of creation.
We are then told that, from the very beginning, man has been created “male and female” (Gen 1:27). Scripture itself provides the interpretation of this fact: even though man is surrounded by the innumerable creatures of the created world, he realizes that he is alone (cf. Gen 2:20). God intervenes in order to help him escape from this situation of solitude: “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him” (Gen 2:18). The creation of woman is thus marked from the outset by the principle of help: a help which is not one-sided but mutual. Woman complements man, just as man complements woman: men and women are complementary. Womanhood expresses the “human” as much as manhood does, but in a different and complementary way.
When the Book of Genesis speaks of “help”, it is not referring merely to acting, but also to being. Womanhood and manhood are complementary not only from the physical and psychological points of view, but also from the ontological. It is only through the duality of the “masculine” and the “feminine” that the “human” finds full realization.
8. After creating man male and female, God says to both: “Fill the earth and subdue it” (Gen 1:28). Not only does he give them the power to procreate as a means of perpetuating the human species throughout time, he also gives them the earth, charging them with the responsible use of its resources. As a rational and free being, man is called to transform the face of the earth. In this task, which is essentially that of culture, man and woman alike share equal responsibility from the start. In their fruitful relationship as husband and wife, in their common task of exercising dominion over the earth, woman and man are marked neither by a static and undifferentiated equality nor by an irreconcilable and inexorably conflictual difference. Their most natural relationship, which corresponds to the plan of God, is the “unity of the two”, a relational “uni-duality”, which enables each to experience their interpersonal and reciprocal relationship as a gift which enriches and which confers responsibility.
To this “unity of the two” God has entrusted not only the work of procreation and family life, but the creation of history itself. While the 1994 International Year of the Family focused attention on women as mothers, the Beijing Conference, which has as its theme “Action for Equality, Development and Peace”, provides an auspicious occasion for heightening awareness of the many contributions made by women to the life of whole societies and nations. This contribution is primarily spiritual and cultural in nature, but socio-political and economic as well. The various sectors of society, nations and states, and the progress of all humanity, are certainly deeply indebted to the contribution of women!
9. Progress usually tends to be measured according to the criteria of science and technology. Nor from this point of view has the contribution of women been negligible. Even so, this is not the only measure of progress, nor in fact is it the principal one. Much more important is the social and ethical dimension, which deals with human relations and spiritual values. In this area, which often develops in an inconspicuous way beginning with the daily relationships between people, especially within the family, society certainly owes much to the “genius of women”.
Here I would like to express particular appreciation to those women who are involved in the various areas of education extending well beyond the family: nurseries, schools, universities, social service agencies, parishes, associations and movements. Wherever the work of education is called for, we can note that women are ever ready and willing to give themselves generously to others, especially in serving the weakest and most defenceless. In this work they exhibit a kind of affective, cultural and spiritual motherhood which has inestimable value for the development of individuals and the future of society. At this point how can I fail to mention the witness of so many Catholic women and Religious Congregations of women from every continent who have made education, particularly the education of boys and girls, their principal apostolate? How can I not think with gratitude of all the women who have worked and continue to work in the area of health care, not only in highly organized institutions, but also in very precarious circumstances, in the poorest countries of the world, thus demonstrating a spirit of service which not infrequently borders on martyrdom?
10. It is thus my hope, dear sisters, that you will reflect carefully on what it means to speak of the “genius of women”, not only in order to be able to see in this phrase a specific part of God’s plan which needs to be accepted and appreciated, but also in order to let this genius be more fully expressed in the life of society as a whole, as well as in the life of the Church. This subject came up frequently during the Marian Year and I myself dwelt on it at length in my Apostolic Letter Mulieris Dignitatem (1988). In addition, this year in the Letter which I customarily send to priests for Holy Thursday, I invited them to reread Mulieris Dignitatem and reflect on the important roles which women have played in their lives as mothers, sisters and co-workers in the apostolate. This is another aspect-different from the conjugal aspect, but also important-of that “help” which women, according to the Book of Genesis, are called to give to men.
The Church sees in Mary the highest expression of the “feminine genius” and she finds in her a source of constant inspiration. Mary called herself the “handmaid of the Lord” (Lk 1:38). Through obedience to the Word of God she accepted her lofty yet not easy vocation as wife and mother in the family of Nazareth. Putting herself at God’s service, she also put herself at the service of others: a service of love. Precisely through this service Mary was able to experience in her life a mysterious, but authentic “reign”. It is not by chance that she is invoked as “Queen of heaven and earth”. The entire community of believers thus invokes her; many nations and peoples call upon her as their “Queen”. For her, “to reign” is to serve! Her service is “to reign”!
This is the way in which authority needs to be understood, both in the family and in society and the Church. Each person’s fundamental vocation is revealed in this “reigning”, for each person has been created in the “image” of the One who is Lord of heaven and earth and called to be his adopted son or daughter in Christ. Man is the only creature on earth “which God willed for its own sake”, as the Second Vatican Council teaches; it significantly adds that man “cannot fully find himself except through a sincere gift of self” (Gaudium et Spes, 24).
The maternal “reign” of Mary consists in this. She who was, in all her being, a gift for her Son, has also become a gift for the sons and daughters of the whole human race, awakening profound trust in those who seek her guidance along the difficult paths of life on the way to their definitive and transcendent destiny. Each one reaches this final goal by fidelity to his or her own vocation; this goal provides meaning and direction for the earthly labours of men and women alike.
11. In this perspective of “service”-which, when it is carried out with freedom, reciprocity and love, expresses the truly “royal” nature of mankind-one can also appreciate that the presence of a certain diversity of roles is in no way prejudicial to women, provided that this diversity is not the result of an arbitrary imposition, but is rather an expression of what is specific to being male and female. This issue also has a particular application within the Church. If Christ-by his free and sovereign choice, clearly attested to by the Gospel and by the Church’s constant Tradition-entrusted only to men the task of being an “icon” of his countenance as “shepherd” and “bridegroom” of the Church through the exercise of the ministerial priesthood, this in no way detracts from the role of women, or for that matter from the role of the other members of the Church who are not ordained to the sacred ministry, since all share equally in the dignity proper to the “common priesthood” based on Baptism. These role distinctions should not be viewed in accordance with the criteria of functionality typical in human societies. Rather they must be understood according to the particular criteria of the sacramental economy, i.e. the economy of “signs” which God freely chooses in order to become present in the midst of humanity.
Furthermore, precisely in line with this economy of signs, even if apart from the sacramental sphere, there is great significance to that “womanhood” which was lived in such a sublime way by Mary. In fact, there is present in the “womanhood” of a woman who believes, and especially in a woman who is “consecrated”, a kind of inherent “prophecy” (cf. Mulieris Dignitatem, 29), a powerfully evocative symbolism, a highly significant “iconic character”, which finds its full realization in Mary and which also aptly expresses the very essence of the Church as a community consecrated with the integrity of a “virgin” heart to become the “bride” of Christ and “mother” of believers. When we consider the “iconic” complementarity of male and female roles, two of the Church’s essential dimensions are seen in a clearer light: the “Marian” principle and the Apostolic- Petrine principle (cf. ibid., 27).
On the other hand-as I wrote to priests in this year’s Holy Thursday Letter-the ministerial priesthood, according to Christ’s plan, “is an expression not of domination but of service” (No. 7). The Church urgently needs, in her daily self-renewal in the light of the Word of God, to emphasize this fact ever more clearly, both by developing the spirit of communion and by carefully fostering all those means of participation which are properly hers, and also by showing respect for and promoting the diverse personal and communal charisms which the Spirit of God bestows for the building up of the Christian community and the service of humanity.
In this vast domain of service, the Church’s two-thousand-year history, for all its historical conditioning, has truly experienced the “genius of woman”; from the heart of the Church there have emerged women of the highest calibre who have left an impressive and beneficial mark in history. I think of the great line of woman martyrs, saints and famous mystics. In a particular way I think of Saint Catherine of Siena and of Saint Teresa of Avila, whom Pope Paul VI of happy memory granted the title of Doctors of the Church. And how can we overlook the many women, inspired by faith, who were responsible for initiatives of extraordinary social importance, especially in serving the poorest of the poor? The life of the Church in the Third Millennium will certainly not be lacking in new and surprising manifestations of “the feminine genius”.
12. You can see then, dear sisters, that the Church has many reasons for hoping that the forthcoming United Nations Conference in Beijing will bring out the full truth about women. Necessary emphasis should be placed on the “genius of women”, not only by considering great and famous women of the past or present, but also those ordinary women who reveal the gift of their womanhood by placing themselves at the service of others in their everyday lives. For in giving themselves to others each day women fulfil their deepest vocation. Perhaps more than men, women acknowledge the person, because they see persons with their hearts. They see them independently of various ideological or political systems. They see others in their greatness and limitations; they try to go out to them and help them. In this way the basic plan of the Creator takes flesh in the history of humanity and there is constantly revealed, in the variety of vocations, that beauty-not merely physical, but above all spiritual-which God bestowed from the very beginning on all, and in a particular way on women.
While I commend to the Lord in prayer the success of the important meeting in Beijing, I invite Ecclesial Communities to make this year an occasion of heartfelt thanksgiving to the Creator and Redeemer of the world for the gift of this great treasure which is womanhood. In all its expressions, womanhood is part of the essential heritage of mankind and of the Church herself.
May Mary, Queen of Love, watch over women and their mission in service of humanity, of peace, of the spread of God’s Kingdom!
With my Blessing.
From the Vatican, 29 June 1995, the Solemnity of Saints Peter and Paul.
JOHN PAUL II
Feminism is a lie
What began as a good thing has been corrupted into idiocracy. Today women have the freedoms they once did not. Women have better lives now because of the women who fought for equality in the workforce and better health care.
The downside of feminism.
Feminism brought the legalization of
“murder of the innocent”
Weather one is for or against, all life is precious there is too much evidence to back that up.
Feminism caused the downfall of polite society.
Men don’t behave like gentlemen to women and women wonder why?
A man holds a door for a woman and she snaps at him “ I can get the door myself, I don’t need a man!” He looks at her in disbelief because all he was doing was trying to be nice. That’s what feminism has done to our society. So now, men don’t want to be nice, and women wonder why.
Look it makes no difference if the woman brings home the bacon or the man or if they both do.
Something else to ponder though.
Feminism drove a wedge in the family unit.
I stand my ground on this one folks, if you want a career then have one. If you want a family then have one. Just don’t do it at the same time.
One parent should be home with the kids it doesn’t matter who, just that your children should come before money, job, and bills. If that means a smaller home, older car, hand me down clothes so what?!
Feminism said a woman could do All of that.
Well there’s another lie. Part of the problem with society is that to many children have had to raise themselves because both parents were working.
It’s not fair! It’s not fair to bring children into the world, profess you love them and then expect someone else to raise them and still have your values. Children feel safer with a parent than anyone else. They need you! That’s worth more than extra money for things.
Really people need to wake up.
Feminism today is just another political cog in the big government wheel, it’s a way to bully others around to get their agenda in place.
Don’t fall into that trap.
Deona Boyle Antifeminist
This will be a bit of a rant
First off, feminism is supposed to be about believing that people are equal because we're all human beings, and I disagree with the dichotomy currently existant between the ideal and the label. If I say I'm a feminist, people will assume that I'm one of the shouty ones unless I qualify the statement with my general philosophy of the human condition. I'm not sure I'm ready to casually share that with semi-random acquaintances (y'all on Prose are a terrific community, so don't think you're included in that. Weird is good here). I hate how the few have twisted the meaning for the many. I believe that we all merit a baseline of respect and consideration because we're all human. Past that, some people may be intrinsically "worth more" in the eyes of society, but the social hierarchy isn't necessarily a good indicator of whether or not someone is a decent human being.
Secondly, there's this idea that being a woman means being proud of yourself, but it's an incredibly thin line to walk. Sometimes there is the connotation that if you don't conform to a certain beauty ideal, then you somehow fall short of achieving the enlightened state of womanhood or something. I call fluff on this - holding everyone in any group to a single standard is unreasonable. Some of us like wearing pants and doing physics, just like some of us like wearing skirts and makeup and designing clothes, or wearing sweatpants and writing short stories. The important thing is to see people as people, not labels (and 'normal' is an elusive concept outside the realm of geometry). I feel like feminism now is associated with the idea that men are inherently different from women. They are in some ways, but they're not a different species. I really wish that people would stop trying to make it seem as though there is some reason why being male/female/other matters unless you're trying to date the person. My personal philosophy is that I really don't care (so long as I'm not offending the person by using the wrong pronoun). Their gender has absolutely no bearing on whether or not they are a decent human being - I've known jerks and angels of all flavors.
This brings me to my third point. I guess I just really don't get what the deal is. For some people, their gender is an integral part of their identity, and I respect that. For me, the fact that I am female is largely irrelevant. I have been addressed as "dude" and "man" both in the conversational and literal sense (the speaker was not paying too close attention, and extremely embarrassed). I don't really care, so long as the person isn't trying to belittle me solely on the basis that I am female. My gender has no effect on the fact that all this will encourage me to do is prove them wrong even if it involves working my tail end off. I was never good at backing down from a challenge, and this is certainly no exception.
I want to wrap up by saying that people are people, and should be treated as such. This isn't Animal Farm - at least, it shouldn't be - where all are equal but some are more equal than others. People deserve respect and consideration; defining people by labels is a risky business at best. I love y'all at Prose, this is an awesome and welcoming community, and be wary of underestimating the power of small and angry.
The inequality of our society is, quite often, drastically clear. But its source and its manifestation are also unquestionably nuanced. The actions of individuals, of groups, of entire societies against women are not acceptable, but they are a symptom, not the disease.
It’s hard if not impossible to point to the true culprit, when you walk in a classroom and it’s ninety-percent men. Where are the women, why aren’t they here? They are not here, and that is a fact, but is it because women just tend not to be interested in electrical engineering or quantum mechanics, or because it has been ingrained from a young age that their interests lie elsewhere, that their interests are supposed to lie elsewhere. Or is it becasue they had set out on that path only to be driven away by the treatment from those around them.
(My friend didn’t come to class today, or monday, or friday, because of the person who sits behind her. Honestly, it might be detrimental to her success. If her actions seem drastic, I can assure you they are not. They also should not be necessary.)
Women are trained to be passive, submissive, to slip quietly away instead of making a scene. They are trained not to cause trouble for others. When they do voice concerns, they are met with disbelief and dirision.
People always focus on treating the symptoms, because they are the most visible--they're the easiest to understand. But the symptoms don't ever really stop until the underlying problem does, and it's not going to stop on its own.
I’m afraid to go on Buzzfeed now
Or even disney channel
Cause the one thing they share
Is the promote us girls with a creepy smile
If I tried to say- Not every boy is guilty-
It’s a battle from a famous movie-
Strong and to it’s death-
That EVERY boy is guilty.
Now going back to the girls-
Ads, Videos, posts-
That smile looks a little more creepy now, doesn’t it?
I hate you all (But I want your attention)
I was so proud of my friend boys for not looking down at my stomach when I tied my shirt up- until they started making hoe jokes
I only did it for the basketball boys really, and their attention was all eyes on me and it was great
But deep down I wonder as I recall the gazes of the other girls with their ug I hate her she's too pretty she is dressing like a slut
Would they have helped me?
Why can't we raise each other up? Don't tear me down. I know you won't say anything, but I can see it in you're eyes
And so I fight a quiet battle, becuase if I was loud they would blame it all on my tied up shirt
It shows my waist sure, but that doesn't mean permission to grab it
And as I recall the bus years and years ago I understand why the boy who still haunts me now always sat with his binder on his lap as he stared at me-but i was only 12
And I can't say anyone would support me
Because I am torn between feeling on top of the world when the boys I have mild interest in stare everywhere and comment and feeling disgusted. I am not a victom, but could I be? I mean it was just yesterday wasn't it? All of this?
"Dude we all know you want to get physical with her"
"She's so hot"
"I'd hit that"
It all felt great until I was told by another that "I wasn't gonna get anywhere hoeing around like that"
Whatever thats supposed to mean
You know I'm not interested, we're friends, so don't you dare make any comments. I deserve respect more then you do. Especially when you demean us. You have no idea what it's like.
Why can't we raise each other up? I know I'm gorgeous, but don't leave me to fend for myself in the pit of hungry males when I need help. Because someday I'm going to drown in all this when someone can't resist themselves and you will all just blame it on a tied up shirt.
Just because it shows my waist doesn't give you permission to grab it.